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Question authority.

So says a bumper sticker I have seen on numerous occasions. In general I like that idea. It fits with my somewhat iconoclastic view of life: challenge assumptions, don't take old ideas without examining where they came from, don't be afraid to explore new ideas and options, and certainly don't let other people run your life. And in a bigger perspective, we realize that the human race would never make any progress if someone did not question and challenge the status quo, the old ideas.

So, it should not come as a surprise, that as I was sitting in church this morning, I began to wonder, why do we build church buildings? And especially expensive, ornate church buildings? Is not God everywhere and in everything? Can we not worship and create sacred time and space in the woods, fields, gardens, living rooms and kitchens, and even in our cars and shopping malls? Would our reso urces be bett er spent elsewhere than in building these special buildings that seem to have such limited usefulness, and are generally so impractical?

Yet, almost as soon as I asked the question, I began to answer it. (What, you may ask, was he thinking the whole time in church? Certainly not paying attentio n!) I t is important, for people in all cultures, religious t raditions, and o ver all recorded history, to have spaces defined as other and sacred. As we strive to connect with the spiritual, holy, and eternal aspects of our humanity, people everywhere have discovered

the importance of having places to go in which the everyday ordinariness of life may not intrude. These places are marked by architectural difference, so that one knows just by the visible appearance t o expect t o connect to something other than everyday work and relationships. These places are also marked by ritual and tradition, patterns of behavior and speech that remind us that there is a reality beyond what we deal with in the little things of daily cares.

This need to connect with universal trut h, holiness, eternal spiritual concepts, seems to be so powerful a part of human nature that monuments to this idea, in many different forms, exist in every culture as far back as history records. I recall visiting the wats, Buddhist temples, in Thailand, in the summer of 1978. Even in the small villages, they were ornate, quiet, special places. I saw people kneeling, lighting candles, and I knew that I must not speak loudly or use my camera's flash, though I did not understand or relate to the traditions they were honoring at the time. I recall at another time the wonder of singing with a choir inside the gigantic sanctuary of the National Cathedral in Washington, D.C. It was not hard to imagine looking up and seeing angels hovering overhead in the lofty stone arches. In places like those, you whisper, walk quietly, and almost hold your breath until you get outside again. They are not like anything else we do, not grocery stores, gas stations, televisions, kitchens, bathrooms, schools or stores. And aren't we glad they exist for us as a shelter against the constant onslaught of the ordinary.

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